People - Top Tips - Feedback
This document is designed as a quick reference guide to feedback.
This will enable you to gain knowledge of a particular skill, task or process in the workplace. This means you can quickly find the key information that you need and refer to it on an ongoing basis whenever you need to refresh your knowledge.
Introduction
Feedback is another method of learning. When we have an understanding of our environment and our behaviour in relation to it, we will make adjustments that we believe to be necessary.
In the workplace, feedback provides us with additional information that allows us to identify a gap or opportunity that we may not have otherwise known about.
Sometimes when giving feedback, we might anticipate a bad response and either choose to say nothing or even end up saying too much.
If we donÕt manage the communication carefully when giving feedback, the information will not be well received; no learning will occur and therefore little will be done to bridge the gap.
People - Top Tips - Feedback
When giving direct feedback, try to mix motivational and developmental points. It may be useful to follow a format such as either of these:
Motivational
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Developmental
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Developmental
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ÔWhat I liked was.....Õ
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ÔWhat I disliked was.......Õ
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ÔWhat IÕd like you to change is......Õ
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Example |
Effect |
Change
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ÔWhen you did this...Õ
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ÔIt had this effectÉÕ
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ÔWhat IÕd like you to change is......Õ
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When giving your feedback, bear in mind the points below:
Clean Feedback vs Dirty Feedback
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Clean |
Dirty |
Own the feedback and give it directly - 1st hand
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ÔI thought that.....Õ
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ÔThey said it was.....Õ
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Concentrate on the behaviour not the personality
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ÔSeveral times you interrupted JohnÕ
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ÔYou were bossy and dominatingÕ
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Be specific, objective and accurate
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ÔYou ignored all my comments which really frustrated meÕ
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ÔYou didnÕt listen to anyoneÕ
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Be timely – be sensitive with this if the person is upset
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ÔIn the meeting yesterday youÉÕ
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ÔThere was a time last Christmas when youÉÕ
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Only acknowledge things which can be changed
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ÔIt would be helpful if you spoke up more in meetingsÕ
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ÔYouÕve got a really squeaky voice!Õ
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Give suggestions for development
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ÔHow about you move into the group moreÕ
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ÔNo-one can see you back thereÕ
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Be motivational |
ÔI know you can do thisÕ |
ÔThereÕll be trouble if you donÕtÉÕ
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Do not ignore the negatives |
ÔIÕd prefer you to look at me when IÕm speakingÕ
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ÔIt was mostly OKÕ
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It may of course be that you have good news for someone. If this is the case give the feedback openly without any catch:
Be motivational with good news too!
ÔThat was a great job you did on that section, well done.Õ
ÔÉthat was great now you can go do all the othersÕ
People - Top Tips - Feedback
When giving other people feedback or helping them to give themselves feedback, make sure it is of use to them. You can do this by making sure your feedback is helpful, as shown on the diagram below:
People - Top Tips - Feedback
Self-given feedback
If you can help the other person to give themselves feedback, it will usually be more powerful. Give them the first chance to speak, using a question such as:
● How do you think that went?Õ or
● How well do you think you did on..........?Õ
They can then bring out the areas in which they did well or less well.
If at all possible try to steer them onto a positive point first. As they bring out these points, respond accordingly, so give praise if it is due, such as:
● Yes, I liked the way you used a soft tone to calm the customerÕ.
They will be pleased to have the good points recognised and praised.
If the other person has only negative comments, ask why this is, e.g.
● ÔWhat do you think may have caused your customer to respond like that?Õ
Or
● ÔWhat do you think didn't work as well as it might have?Õ
They will be more likely to accept the points if they bring them out themselves. When they have given their thoughts, follow up with a question such as:
● ÔHow do you think you might do that differently next time?Õ or
● ÔWhat effect do you think that might have?Õ
They are more likely to make the change if they identify it themselves.
Receiving feedback
It will be worth encouraging the other person to accept the feedback constructively, in order to gain the most from it, as if they can accept feedback well, people will be more inclined to make the effort to provide it.
Some tips:
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Good Example |
Bad Example
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Listen |
Active listening |
Failing to concentrate
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Clarify, check that you understand
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ÔWhat part of the meeting was this in?Õ
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Yeah, okay, whateverÕ
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Probe what is meant |
ÔCan you give me an example of that?Õ
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ÔYes, but....Õ
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Keep it in context |
ÔSo itÕs when IÕm busy that I do thisÕ
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ÔI hardly ever do thatÕ
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Acknowledge it |
ÔÕI hadnÕt realised it had that effect on youÕ
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ÔNo-one else has said thatÕ
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Use it |
ÔIÕll make a point of doing that in futureÕ |
ÔYou canÕt please all the people all the timeÕ
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DonÕt be defensive |
ÔWhat makes you say that?Õ
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ÔYouÕve got me wrong, I just.....Õ
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Accept praise where itÕs due
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ÔThank youÕ |
ÔIt was nothing.......Õ
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Acknowledge feelings
Be aware of and sensitive to the other personÕs feelings when you are giving feedback. When we receive feedback, we go - however briefly - through up to five stages, which may be described as:
● Shock ÔWhat did they say!
● Anger ÔHow dare they say that!Õ
● Rejection ÔIÕm not like that at all!Õ
● Acceptance ÔWell, maybe there is something in itÕ
● Honesty ÔYes, I am like thatÕ
Acceptance may not be immediate; a person may prefer to go away and think about the feedback before wanting to discuss it further with you.